A Celebration of Marriage: Mrs. H

That's right...I wanted to end this year buy giving a nod to marriage and being in love.
Marriage just like anything has its ups and downs.
Each person may have their good days and their bad.
But what you know without a doubt at the end of the day, is that you have someone walking through life, through it all right by your side.

Through blogging I have met a wonderful network of women who are happily married and not afraid to celebrate their love and shout from the mountain tops.
Cause really, isn't that how love makes you feel?
Like you could tell the world?
Like you should tell the world?

I wanted to do a little series where I celebrate marriage, my own and those of a few fellow bloggers in the days to come.
I invite you to share the lessons you have most learned over your first year of marriage.
Perhaps there is something you can learn from what others have done or even just relate to.

If you'd like to be featured in the series, just send me an email with your post, talking about your marriage and telling specifically what you have learned in you "x" years/months of marriage, what you're most looking forward to and what advice would you give to newlyweds.
Its that easy.
My email is lifeasmrsh@gmail.com or you can click the envelope button on the top right.

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What I've learned during my first years:
1. That with my husband's love I am invinsible.
There is nothing I can't conquer, no feat too big or small that I can't accomplish. He supports me and gives me strength, he inspires me when I am completely unmotivated and he may not always know the right thing to say but he'll always try to do the things necessary to make things right.

2. We may not always agree, but its your attitude during the disagreement that counts.
 We don't use foul language at each other, it just doesn't fly in our house. As hard as it may be we always try to listen and we always end by apologizing to each other. Even the person who was right! During our days of dating we both read the book "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff". When an argument seems to be going awry and its hard to back down someone yells "Small Stuff" trust me it works. You try arguing with someone who yells out like if they're all of a sudden having Tourettes. The big stuff we usually agree on......for now. At this stage in our marriage we haven't experienced any big things we don't see eye to eye on.......yet! (We're only one year in). Also we don't go to bed angry or having not resolved something.....ever.

3. We will never agree on the thermostat. (Compromise)
Small stuff, I wear his sweats and favorite hoodies and sweatshirts around the house instead of fighting over the thermostat. Because truly as my dear wise husband once said "you can always put on clothes to keep warm but you can't take off your skin, if you're always hot". LOL!

4. There are some places my nose just doesn't belong. The saying goes there's a time and place for everything...true but sometimes my opinion knows no boundaries. I've definitely learned when to share my opinion and not to. I used to stick my nose in my husband's business when it came to the handling of his employees, when really I should be listening and offering advice, not leading with "what you really need to do is....". Lesson learned. He interacts with them on a day to day basis and mine interaction with them is limited. I don't tell him how to do his job after all I don't let anyone tell me how to do mine.

5. Laugh, laugh and when you're done, laugh some more. Laughing is a staple in our marriage. We goof around enough for a whole circus of clowns. I'm serious. In marraige sometimes you need to have a thick skin, not just for the things life throws at you but sometimes for those comments that may come out when mouth works faster than brain. Give the benefit of the doubt, relax and just laugh it off. When they say laughter is the best medicine they weren't joking. Of course there are times to be serious but pick your battles and don't sweat the small stuff.....and most of the time, its always small stuff.

I hope any newlyweds reading this can learn a thing or two of maybe just relate. Marriage is such a wonderful thing. Its knowing someone always has your back, at least that's what it should feel like. That you're never in the ring alone, someone is with you, who cares and that loves you! At least that's how marriage feels to me.

Hope you enjoy this series over the next few days, leave your comments and feedback. Let's end this year on a note of LOVE!!!!